![]() There’s always potential for change - on both sides - of almost any issue. If your kid is super-attached to changing their hairstyle and you’re uber-attached to the “no,” offer to revisit the discussion after an agreed upon time, say in six months, the next grade level or middle school. When 13-year-old Nick wanted a Mohawk at age 9, his parents used his request as an incentive for him to work hard in school. ![]() Apply a challenge to uncover their level of commitment. If they keep bugging you, you’ll know it’s more important to them than a passing whim. Once you’ve said no, some kids will just shrug and move on. Empowering them to voice their desire for a change can turn the “no” into a lesson in civil discourse, even if the rule stands. If the “no” is due to a school rule, ask your kid if they want to write a letter to the school to suggest changing the rule. Try hair extensions, clip-ins or one-wash dyes. ![]() Offer something more temporary than a permanent color or cut. As Shane’s mom said: “People should be worried about heroin, not hair.” Have some comebacks - or at least a polite reply - prepared. Well-meaning (or not) acquaintances, teachers, grandmas and grandpas, and even other kids will comment. And professional stylists can do a lot to make even the worst mistakes look better. For kids who crave a way to self-express, the sense of agency that comes from choosing their own unique hairstyle can be a huge confidence boost. ![]() For kids who hate haircuts, they may stress far less with longer hair or dreadlocks, knowing the next cut won’t be anytime soon. But you won’t know that until you let them do it. ![]() It may be more meaningful than you expect. ![]()
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